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The Asexual and Aromantic Spectrum

The Definition of Asexuality

So, to start off this blog let’s begin with asexuality. 

Being asexual usually means to have no sexual attraction to another human being. Of course, there is a spectrum of what asexuality is but that’ll be discussed later on. Asexual people most likely don’t have sex but aren’t completely disgusted by it. There are absolutely people who do have sex and identify as asexual, and some just want to be romantic with a partner. 

People can identify as asexual for several reasons: they simply don’t like the idea of sex, a traumatic event happened in their life and sex is uncomfortable, or sex really does disgust them and all of those reasons are completely valid. 

Remember asexuality is a spectrum, just like aromanticism. Speaking of which…

Definition of Aromanticism

Aromanticism is, by definition, the exact opposite of asexuality funnily enough. 

Being aromantic is to have little to no romantic attraction toward anyone at all. Most of the time aromantic people have more sexual attraction than anything. And of course, like said before aromantic people can love and be loved in a completely other way such as aesthetically, intellectually, platonically, sexually, physically or sensually.

Without a doubt asexual people can feel love like this as well, but I wanted to mention that aromantic people are indeed able to love. 

The Aromantic/Asexual Spectrum: Somehow Still Unknown Forgotten Kept Secret Unfamiliar

Like said before there is an aromantic and asexual spectrum. And yet people don’t seem to know that and only think were single emotionless people. So, let’s use this time to show them our rainbow of a spectrum.

  • Demisexual: it means to have sexual attraction after feeling a close emotional or even romantic kind of bond with a person. However, this isn’t a choice this is a feeling so respect that to the fullest extent.
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  • Graysexual: graysexual people are people of the asexual spectrum who feel sexual attraction on some occasion. Sometimes people only feel sexual attraction a couple times or once or twice. It’s different for all sorts of people, and that’s super valid.
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  • Quoisexual: those who don’t understand or don’t feel the experiences or the concepts of sexual attraction. Or even those who aren’t sure if they can experience sexual attraction. Almost like a more extreme form of asexuality in a way.
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  • Fraysexual: being fraysexual means that you have sexual feelings at first, but they gradually recede over time, usually when a bond begins to be formed. Of course, that doesn’t mean a fraysexual person can’t have an emotional bond, but their sexual feelings are purely gone. 
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  • Caedsexual: people who are caedsexual begin to believe they’re allosexual (to have regular sexual feeling and desires) at some point but are now asexual because of a past trauma. This micro label is specifically made and used for those with trauma and suffer from ptsd so please be respectful.
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  • Caedromantic: like caedsexual, people who have suffered from traumas and ptsd believed they were alloromantic and are now aromantic. Same as caedsexual please respecful of these sexualities.
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  • Recipromantic: someone who does not feel only sexual attraction until knowing someone else has romantic attraction for them first. Then they begin to feel romantic feelings toward said person.
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  • Myrromantic: someone under this label is on the aromantic spectrum but who isn’t sure about where they lie. Sometimes they can identify with several aromantic identities, or they can change at rapid pace. This label is usually a safe space for people who are still figuring themselves out or it can truly be where people are. Remember that all these identities are valid. 
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  • Cupioromantic/sexual: this is an orientation for people who don’t feel romantic or sexual attraction but want to truly feel it. I’d describe myself as someone under both of these labels, and I’ll say that it really is a heartbreaking experience, for me at least. It is absolutely different for everyone, that’s just my experience.

If you’re still here, well thanks for reading this to the end! I’d love to know what you think, your opinions, and what else should be brought to light. I can’t wait to write about even more topics, not just about lgbtqia+ but other things too.

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February 2, 2023
  • Queer Led Worship Service - Trinity Lutheran Church

    February 2, 2023 | 6:30 pm - 8:00 pm
    Trinity Lutheran Church, 421 N Main St, Greenville, SC 29601, USA

    Join Trinity Lutheran Church for their monthly Queer Led Worship Service from 6:30-8P on the First Thursday of each Month.

    Click here for more info

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February 4, 2023
  • Greenville Rainbow Runners & Walkers Weekly Meet Up

    February 4, 2023 | 8:30 am - 10:00 am
    The Commons, 147 Welborn St Suite B1, Greenville, SC 29601, USA

    We are an LGBTQ+ running club open to all in Greenville, SC and the surrounding areas.

    Whether you are a skilled marathoner or just getting started on your personal fitness journey, we exist to provide you with a supportive, inclusive, and positive community. We are committed to helping you achieve your short-term and long-term goals related to running and walking.

    Currently, we meet up once a week:

    When: 8:30 AM every Saturday
    Where: The Commons (147 Welborn Street)

    Distance completed will vary based on the individual. Prior to the run/walk, we do brief introductions and stretches. Once intros and stretches are complete, we break into smaller groups based on pace and distance abilities.

    The run/walks generally end around 9:30-9:45 A.M.

    Our run/walk start point is also our end point.

    For those interested, we cool down by hanging outside of the Commons for refueling, recovery, and social time.

    FACEBOOK GROUP LINK

    See more details

February 11, 2023
  • Greenville Rainbow Runners & Walkers Weekly Meet Up

    February 11, 2023 | 8:30 am - 10:00 am
    The Commons, 147 Welborn St Suite B1, Greenville, SC 29601, USA

    We are an LGBTQ+ running club open to all in Greenville, SC and the surrounding areas.

    Whether you are a skilled marathoner or just getting started on your personal fitness journey, we exist to provide you with a supportive, inclusive, and positive community. We are committed to helping you achieve your short-term and long-term goals related to running and walking.

    Currently, we meet up once a week:

    When: 8:30 AM every Saturday
    Where: The Commons (147 Welborn Street)

    Distance completed will vary based on the individual. Prior to the run/walk, we do brief introductions and stretches. Once intros and stretches are complete, we break into smaller groups based on pace and distance abilities.

    The run/walks generally end around 9:30-9:45 A.M.

    Our run/walk start point is also our end point.

    For those interested, we cool down by hanging outside of the Commons for refueling, recovery, and social time.

    FACEBOOK GROUP LINK

    See more details

February 16, 2023
  • T-Time Parents monthly support meeting

    February 16, 2023 | 7:00 pm - 9:00 pm

    This is a meeting for parents of transgender children of any age. 

    Contact brenda@pflaggvl.org for further meeting place information.

    See more details

February 18, 2023
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    February 18, 2023 | 8:30 am - 10:00 am
    The Commons, 147 Welborn St Suite B1, Greenville, SC 29601, USA

    We are an LGBTQ+ running club open to all in Greenville, SC and the surrounding areas.

    Whether you are a skilled marathoner or just getting started on your personal fitness journey, we exist to provide you with a supportive, inclusive, and positive community. We are committed to helping you achieve your short-term and long-term goals related to running and walking.

    Currently, we meet up once a week:

    When: 8:30 AM every Saturday
    Where: The Commons (147 Welborn Street)

    Distance completed will vary based on the individual. Prior to the run/walk, we do brief introductions and stretches. Once intros and stretches are complete, we break into smaller groups based on pace and distance abilities.

    The run/walks generally end around 9:30-9:45 A.M.

    Our run/walk start point is also our end point.

    For those interested, we cool down by hanging outside of the Commons for refueling, recovery, and social time.

    FACEBOOK GROUP LINK

    See more details

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    February 23, 2023 | 7:00 pm - 10:00 pm
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    WHEN: Last Thursday of every month at 7 - 10 PM

    WHERE: Aloft Greenville Downtown

    ADMISSION: Free

    Join us for a fabulous evening of bingo to benefit Upstate Pride SC. Enjoy an assortment of signature cocktails and prizes. 

    See more details

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    February 25, 2023 | 8:30 am - 10:00 am
    The Commons, 147 Welborn St Suite B1, Greenville, SC 29601, USA

    We are an LGBTQ+ running club open to all in Greenville, SC and the surrounding areas.

    Whether you are a skilled marathoner or just getting started on your personal fitness journey, we exist to provide you with a supportive, inclusive, and positive community. We are committed to helping you achieve your short-term and long-term goals related to running and walking.

    Currently, we meet up once a week:

    When: 8:30 AM every Saturday
    Where: The Commons (147 Welborn Street)

    Distance completed will vary based on the individual. Prior to the run/walk, we do brief introductions and stretches. Once intros and stretches are complete, we break into smaller groups based on pace and distance abilities.

    The run/walks generally end around 9:30-9:45 A.M.

    Our run/walk start point is also our end point.

    For those interested, we cool down by hanging outside of the Commons for refueling, recovery, and social time.

    FACEBOOK GROUP LINK

    See more details

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    March 1, 2023 | 7:00 pm - 9:00 pm
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    We are thrilled to have you join our monthly PFLAG GVL support group meeting. 

    We are a safe place to share, learn, listen, and experience our journeys together.

    Whether you are joining for support, resources, or just to see what we are all about, we are glad you are here!

    Please complete this form and watch for us to email you more information about meeting details.

    See more details

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    March 2, 2023 | 6:30 pm - 8:00 pm
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    Join Trinity Lutheran Church for their monthly Queer Led Worship Service from 6:30-8P on the First Thursday of each Month.

    Click here for more info

    See more details

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    The Commons, 147 Welborn St Suite B1, Greenville, SC 29601, USA

    We are an LGBTQ+ running club open to all in Greenville, SC and the surrounding areas.

    Whether you are a skilled marathoner or just getting started on your personal fitness journey, we exist to provide you with a supportive, inclusive, and positive community. We are committed to helping you achieve your short-term and long-term goals related to running and walking.

    Currently, we meet up once a week:

    When: 8:30 AM every Saturday
    Where: The Commons (147 Welborn Street)

    Distance completed will vary based on the individual. Prior to the run/walk, we do brief introductions and stretches. Once intros and stretches are complete, we break into smaller groups based on pace and distance abilities.

    The run/walks generally end around 9:30-9:45 A.M.

    Our run/walk start point is also our end point.

    For those interested, we cool down by hanging outside of the Commons for refueling, recovery, and social time.

    FACEBOOK GROUP LINK

    See more details

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    The Commons, 147 Welborn St Suite B1, Greenville, SC 29601, USA

    We are an LGBTQ+ running club open to all in Greenville, SC and the surrounding areas.

    Whether you are a skilled marathoner or just getting started on your personal fitness journey, we exist to provide you with a supportive, inclusive, and positive community. We are committed to helping you achieve your short-term and long-term goals related to running and walking.

    Currently, we meet up once a week:

    When: 8:30 AM every Saturday
    Where: The Commons (147 Welborn Street)

    Distance completed will vary based on the individual. Prior to the run/walk, we do brief introductions and stretches. Once intros and stretches are complete, we break into smaller groups based on pace and distance abilities.

    The run/walks generally end around 9:30-9:45 A.M.

    Our run/walk start point is also our end point.

    For those interested, we cool down by hanging outside of the Commons for refueling, recovery, and social time.

    FACEBOOK GROUP LINK

    See more details

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    This is a meeting for parents of transgender children of any age. 

    Contact brenda@pflaggvl.org for further meeting place information.

    See more details

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    March 18, 2023 | 8:30 am - 10:00 am
    The Commons, 147 Welborn St Suite B1, Greenville, SC 29601, USA

    We are an LGBTQ+ running club open to all in Greenville, SC and the surrounding areas.

    Whether you are a skilled marathoner or just getting started on your personal fitness journey, we exist to provide you with a supportive, inclusive, and positive community. We are committed to helping you achieve your short-term and long-term goals related to running and walking.

    Currently, we meet up once a week:

    When: 8:30 AM every Saturday
    Where: The Commons (147 Welborn Street)

    Distance completed will vary based on the individual. Prior to the run/walk, we do brief introductions and stretches. Once intros and stretches are complete, we break into smaller groups based on pace and distance abilities.

    The run/walks generally end around 9:30-9:45 A.M.

    Our run/walk start point is also our end point.

    For those interested, we cool down by hanging outside of the Commons for refueling, recovery, and social time.

    FACEBOOK GROUP LINK

    See more details

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    The Commons, 147 Welborn St Suite B1, Greenville, SC 29601, USA

    We are an LGBTQ+ running club open to all in Greenville, SC and the surrounding areas.

    Whether you are a skilled marathoner or just getting started on your personal fitness journey, we exist to provide you with a supportive, inclusive, and positive community. We are committed to helping you achieve your short-term and long-term goals related to running and walking.

    Currently, we meet up once a week:

    When: 8:30 AM every Saturday
    Where: The Commons (147 Welborn Street)

    Distance completed will vary based on the individual. Prior to the run/walk, we do brief introductions and stretches. Once intros and stretches are complete, we break into smaller groups based on pace and distance abilities.

    The run/walks generally end around 9:30-9:45 A.M.

    Our run/walk start point is also our end point.

    For those interested, we cool down by hanging outside of the Commons for refueling, recovery, and social time.

    FACEBOOK GROUP LINK

    See more details

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    March 30, 2023 | 7:00 pm - 10:00 pm
    Aloft Greenville Downtown, 5 N Laurens St, Greenville, SC 29601, USA

    WHEN: Last Thursday of every month at 7 - 10 PM

    WHERE: Aloft Greenville Downtown

    ADMISSION: Free

    Join us for a fabulous evening of bingo to benefit Upstate Pride SC. Enjoy an assortment of signature cocktails and prizes. 

    See more details

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    The Commons, 147 Welborn St Suite B1, Greenville, SC 29601, USA

    We are an LGBTQ+ running club open to all in Greenville, SC and the surrounding areas.

    Whether you are a skilled marathoner or just getting started on your personal fitness journey, we exist to provide you with a supportive, inclusive, and positive community. We are committed to helping you achieve your short-term and long-term goals related to running and walking.

    Currently, we meet up once a week:

    When: 8:30 AM every Saturday
    Where: The Commons (147 Welborn Street)

    Distance completed will vary based on the individual. Prior to the run/walk, we do brief introductions and stretches. Once intros and stretches are complete, we break into smaller groups based on pace and distance abilities.

    The run/walks generally end around 9:30-9:45 A.M.

    Our run/walk start point is also our end point.

    For those interested, we cool down by hanging outside of the Commons for refueling, recovery, and social time.

    FACEBOOK GROUP LINK

    See more details

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    We are thrilled to have you join our monthly PFLAG GVL support group meeting. 

    We are a safe place to share, learn, listen, and experience our journeys together.

    Whether you are joining for support, resources, or just to see what we are all about, we are glad you are here!

    Please complete this form and watch for us to email you more information about meeting details.

    See more details

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    April 6, 2023 | 6:30 pm - 8:00 pm
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    Join Trinity Lutheran Church for their monthly Queer Led Worship Service from 6:30-8P on the First Thursday of each Month.

    Click here for more info

    See more details

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    The Commons, 147 Welborn St Suite B1, Greenville, SC 29601, USA

    We are an LGBTQ+ running club open to all in Greenville, SC and the surrounding areas.

    Whether you are a skilled marathoner or just getting started on your personal fitness journey, we exist to provide you with a supportive, inclusive, and positive community. We are committed to helping you achieve your short-term and long-term goals related to running and walking.

    Currently, we meet up once a week:

    When: 8:30 AM every Saturday
    Where: The Commons (147 Welborn Street)

    Distance completed will vary based on the individual. Prior to the run/walk, we do brief introductions and stretches. Once intros and stretches are complete, we break into smaller groups based on pace and distance abilities.

    The run/walks generally end around 9:30-9:45 A.M.

    Our run/walk start point is also our end point.

    For those interested, we cool down by hanging outside of the Commons for refueling, recovery, and social time.

    FACEBOOK GROUP LINK

    See more details

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    The Commons, 147 Welborn St Suite B1, Greenville, SC 29601, USA

    We are an LGBTQ+ running club open to all in Greenville, SC and the surrounding areas.

    Whether you are a skilled marathoner or just getting started on your personal fitness journey, we exist to provide you with a supportive, inclusive, and positive community. We are committed to helping you achieve your short-term and long-term goals related to running and walking.

    Currently, we meet up once a week:

    When: 8:30 AM every Saturday
    Where: The Commons (147 Welborn Street)

    Distance completed will vary based on the individual. Prior to the run/walk, we do brief introductions and stretches. Once intros and stretches are complete, we break into smaller groups based on pace and distance abilities.

    The run/walks generally end around 9:30-9:45 A.M.

    Our run/walk start point is also our end point.

    For those interested, we cool down by hanging outside of the Commons for refueling, recovery, and social time.

    FACEBOOK GROUP LINK

    See more details

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  • T-Time Parents monthly support meeting

    April 20, 2023 | 7:00 pm - 9:00 pm

    This is a meeting for parents of transgender children of any age. 

    Contact brenda@pflaggvl.org for further meeting place information.

    See more details

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    The Commons, 147 Welborn St Suite B1, Greenville, SC 29601, USA

    We are an LGBTQ+ running club open to all in Greenville, SC and the surrounding areas.

    Whether you are a skilled marathoner or just getting started on your personal fitness journey, we exist to provide you with a supportive, inclusive, and positive community. We are committed to helping you achieve your short-term and long-term goals related to running and walking.

    Currently, we meet up once a week:

    When: 8:30 AM every Saturday
    Where: The Commons (147 Welborn Street)

    Distance completed will vary based on the individual. Prior to the run/walk, we do brief introductions and stretches. Once intros and stretches are complete, we break into smaller groups based on pace and distance abilities.

    The run/walks generally end around 9:30-9:45 A.M.

    Our run/walk start point is also our end point.

    For those interested, we cool down by hanging outside of the Commons for refueling, recovery, and social time.

    FACEBOOK GROUP LINK

    See more details

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  • Drag Queen Bingo ft. "Queen of Versage"

    April 27, 2023 | 7:00 pm - 10:00 pm
    Aloft Greenville Downtown, 5 N Laurens St, Greenville, SC 29601, USA

    WHEN: Last Thursday of every month at 7 - 10 PM

    WHERE: Aloft Greenville Downtown

    ADMISSION: Free

    Join us for a fabulous evening of bingo to benefit Upstate Pride SC. Enjoy an assortment of signature cocktails and prizes. 

    See more details

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    April 29, 2023 | 8:30 am - 10:00 am
    The Commons, 147 Welborn St Suite B1, Greenville, SC 29601, USA

    We are an LGBTQ+ running club open to all in Greenville, SC and the surrounding areas.

    Whether you are a skilled marathoner or just getting started on your personal fitness journey, we exist to provide you with a supportive, inclusive, and positive community. We are committed to helping you achieve your short-term and long-term goals related to running and walking.

    Currently, we meet up once a week:

    When: 8:30 AM every Saturday
    Where: The Commons (147 Welborn Street)

    Distance completed will vary based on the individual. Prior to the run/walk, we do brief introductions and stretches. Once intros and stretches are complete, we break into smaller groups based on pace and distance abilities.

    The run/walks generally end around 9:30-9:45 A.M.

    Our run/walk start point is also our end point.

    For those interested, we cool down by hanging outside of the Commons for refueling, recovery, and social time.

    FACEBOOK GROUP LINK

    See more details

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  • PFLAG GVL - Monthly Support Group with Friends

    May 3, 2023 | 7:00 pm - 9:00 pm
    Queer Wellness Center of Greenville, 30 Pointe Cir, Greenville, SC 29615, USA

    We are thrilled to have you join our monthly PFLAG GVL support group meeting. 

    We are a safe place to share, learn, listen, and experience our journeys together.

    Whether you are joining for support, resources, or just to see what we are all about, we are glad you are here!

    Please complete this form and watch for us to email you more information about meeting details.

    See more details

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